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How Keeper Works: Our Method for Soulmate Matching

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August 13, 2025

Falling in love with your soulmate feels like destiny, and every day with them feels like coming home.

But finding a soulmate isn’t easy. Fewer than 1 in a million people match you so perfectly. Your soulmate is uniquely complex, and they complement you in ways that are subtle and essential—not for one obvious reason, but for dozens of smaller ones. No two couples share exactly the same formula.

To reliably find your soulmate, Keeper takes the time to understand you deeply. From the basic facts to the most meaningful details about your personality, values, dreams, and preferences. From there, we pinpoint the precise set of qualities someone must have to fit you, and that you must have to fit them.

Only then can we confidently find your perfect match.

The Keeper Process

1. Your First Two Modules

Your Keeper journey begins with two short questionnaires, “Basic Traits” and “Basic Preferences.” These give us a clear first picture of who you are and the type of partner you want.

2. Your Dashboard and Additional Modules

Completing your initial modules unlocks deeper modules. These cover essential areas like personality, lifestyle, family, relationship style, core values, and more.

Most people complete them gradually over a few weeks. You don’t need to finish every module, but the more thoughtfully and thoroughly you answer, the faster we find your ideal match. Go at your own pace, because accuracy beats speed.

Your dashboard updates continuously, narrowing down your potential matches with each new answer. Every completed module makes your Keeper algorithm more precise, refining your matches and removing anyone who isn’t a strong fit.

3. Finding Your Ideal Match

Keeper’s AI never stops searching for your soulmate. Each month, thousands of new members join, and the AI carefully evaluates every one of them against your specific criteria. It continuously recalculates compatibility as it learns more about you, ensuring nobody slips by unnoticed.

Keeper evaluates compatibility three ways:

  1. Your Preferences vs. Their Traits: Do they match what you want?
  2. Their Preferences vs. Your Traits: Do you match what they want?
  3. Your Traits vs. Their Traits: Our AI leverages insights from evolutionary psychology, behavioral science, and relationship research to measure deep compatibility–including factors you would never think of.

Your preferences always take priority. If you specify a clear preference that overrides our default matching logic, your preference is what we abide by.

Honesty and Privacy

The more truthful and open you are, the better your match. Keeper also verifies information and detects inconsistencies, ensuring you’re matched only with someone equally as honest and committed.

Your privacy and trust are crucial. Keeper clearly tells you which questionnaire responses may be shared. Basic details like your first name are always shared, and details shared in confidence (like your preferences) always stay private. For everything else, Keeper carefully selects what your match will see. Our experts specifically choose information to help your match understand precisely why you’re compatible, while always respecting your comfort and privacy so you never feel exposed.

4. Meeting Your Match

Keeper offers a match only when both people have provided enough detail, compatibility is exceptionally high, and your key preferences align.

Matches are privately shown to the woman first. If she’s interested, the man sees her profile next. If he’s also interested, Keeper privately shares contact information with both people, making it easy to take the next step.

Instead of one profile that everyone sees, Keeper crafts a custom profile for every recipient (and a custom view of their profile for you). It expands on the topics you care about and condenses everything else, so you’re never overwhelmed and the fit is clear.

One Match at a Time

Keeper gives you just one carefully chosen match at a time. Why just one? Because every match represents deep research, thoughtful analysis, and careful evaluation. We only offer a match when we’re genuinely convinced that person has real soulmate potential and deserves your undivided attention.

Once presented with a match, you have time to review their detailed profile and decide if you’d like to meet. If you choose to pursue the connection, Keeper pauses new matches indefinitely, giving you time and space to explore your match. We’ll only resume matching if you inform us that it’s not a fit or it didn’t work out.

5. Feedback and Continuous Improvement

Your feedback directly improves your Keeper experience. When you move on from a match—whether you decide not to meet, have a few dates, or even date for an extended period—we’ll ask exactly what you liked and didn’t. Your match never sees your feedback, so you can be honest and open. Keeper reviews every piece of feedback, continuously learning to improve your next match.

Keeper Works

Keeper’s careful process delivers results. 57% of matches are mutually accepted, 50% of accepted matches lead to dates, and 10% of first dates result in marriage. These numbers are significantly better than any other way you can date.

Our Promise

Keeper is built exclusively for genuine compatibility and deep connection. Finding your soulmate takes patience, but meeting them will change your life forever.

Helping you on this journey is Keeper’s pride and mission. Thank you for making us part of your story.

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